Sometimes a Pastor Just Needs to Go Home

No matter how much I’m enjoying a church function, I can’t wait to go home.



I have enjoyed many church events and one-on-one meetings in my pastoral career. Relaxed, edifying, and enjoyable time together with people of like-minded faith is what church is mostly about.

But I still really like going home.

This is especially true if I had to “dress up.” Suits are the worst. Just taking off the tie is like 50 pounds being lifted off me. I take off the nice shirt and dress pants, and remove the sweaty black socks out of the sweaty dress shoes, and I could float away.

There’s nothing like coming home and putting a pair of shorts and a t-shirt on.

I’m a person who gets drained by people. Even if it’s people I love and an enjoyable activity. I still need to be alone for a while and chill. My brain needs time to reflect, process, and prepare for what’s next.

Every pastor needs a nice place to go sit and be alone. I have a nice chair in my office I read in. I have a spot by the lake across the road and some parks nearby. Nice spots I can just go and sit and be quiet and alone. I pray. I think. I even laugh at my jokes. I say witty comebacks to long over conversations.

Being alone puts energy back in me that being with others sucked out. Nothing wrong with the people; it’s just how I’m wired.

“There’s no place like home,” I happily say along with tornado-displaced Dorothy. I have no magic shoes that take me there, just sweaty dress shoes that probably can’t wait to get home either.

I can only imagine the feeling of being in my eternal home, putting off my old, sweaty tent of a body and putting on the new spiritual body. What a day of rejoicing it will be! I can’t wait to get home.



When Jesus therefore perceived that they would come and take him by force, to make him a king, he departed again into a mountain himself alone.
–John 6:15

4 thoughts on “Sometimes a Pastor Just Needs to Go Home

  1. I am the same way. Sometimes it makes me feel like…well…a failing pastor. I love my people, but I need my alone time. Thanks for this.


  2. Nearly ALL my family, friends, church members have been told… and know well… that I ABSOLUTELY CRAVE solitude. I feel this craving is MUCH more than most… I can “do” and “serve” and “love/interact” perhaps as well as most… but it’s a chore, a strain and just like the urge to use the bathroom (best example I can think of)… I CAN”T deny that urge. I manage all of these emotions fairly well, but it’s not easy and there’s A LOT of work going on inside my head/heart to be social. Being a Pastor just adds to this… God is good though… I lean on him and run away when I can… 🙂


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