STEP ONE: You can’t. Just give it up.
That’s it. That’s the only step.
How to Teach Someone has more steps. There is a system for that, but there is no possible way for you to make someone learn.
Learning requires humility. Humans by nature are not humble. Pride is our biggest sin and weakness. Pride causes most sin.
If you’re not humble you will not learn.
The only way someone will learn is if they are humbled.
Typically the only thing that will humble a person is when life falls apart. When the reaping of the actions sown comes. When the eggs hatch. When rock bottom hits.
Life has a way of smacking people in the face. When this occurs, pride will typically step in. Pride will deal with life falling apart by ignoring it, drowning it with mind altering chemicals, blaming others like a good victim, talking incessantly about it to therapists or friends, or doubling down on your actions and concluding everyone else is the idiot.
One would think life falling apart would humble everyone. If you think this, you don’t know humans.
However, there’s a chance that when life falls apart humility will make you honestly analyze yourself and look for ways to learn and make things better.
If this occurs then learning will happen.
And, for the record, you don’t have to wait for life to smack you. It’s possible to learn from life smacking other people!
This is one of the reasons the Bible was written. It’s why there are so many unflattering stories in the Bible about otherwise godly people.
“These things were written for our learning,” Paul says. We learn from the mistakes of others so we don’t repeat them.
You can actually avoid life smacking you by being humble through the example of others, understanding that you are also a fallen human susceptible to the same sin.
But if you’ve ever been in a small group Bible study, you know that when we read about Peter and David and Samson we simply just bash on these guys and wonder how they could be so stupid.
This is a sure sign you will not learn from their mistakes. If you think you’re immune to sin, better than Peter, David, and Samson, then you’re probably setting yourself up for a fall.
You cannot make someone else learn. You can warn them and teach them and yell at them and love them and correct them and pray for them and snatch them out of the fire, but you can’t learn for them.
Watching someone destroy their life further and further is heart wrenching. You want to rewire their brains, to infuse them with knowledge, but they don’t see or hear.
Today, harden not your hearts as they did in the provocation, but humble yourself under the mighty hand of God and He will lift you up in due time.
The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. The fear of God is what humility is. Please do this. Your life doesn’t have to keep getting terrible fruit.
That’s what I teach. Up to you whether you learn!
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